Don’t Miss The Little Things

These last few months I’ve been doing “little things” with my yearling. Last week I took him to a local park to see the Christmas lights… At night! Oh my! It can be easy to think, oh gosh - what have I done that’s even worthwhile with this horse. If we’re not in some indoor drilling those show moves, it doesn’t count. 

Ever had a similar thought?

But let’s challenge that idea that nothing was accomplished in a small moment like this. In our recent outing, Baby Boy:

• Trailered off property

• Practiced loading and unloading… in the dark, to boot!

• Exposure to (very scary) Christmas light displays

• Exposure to (very scary) night noises like kids playing and goats bleating

• Practice focusing and listening to me in a new (and scary!) environment

• Practice regulating his own self so he can perform

• Practice for me handling my horse when he’s amped up and unsure

There’s actually a LOT going on here! Even without any riding!

When it comes to a good show horse, it’s not just about their ability to execute maneuvers! They need to be able to load and haul and unload in all sorts of situations. They need to be able to eat and drink and be healthy. They need to handle the pressure from their riders and not freak out being in a new arena. If we could all just ride like we do at home no matter where we are I'd be out of a job! (Albeit happily). 

Our horses, like ourselves, have to learn to both master the technical maneuvers… And master “everything else.” And, most horse owners are non-pros. Meaning, most horses need to be able to handle life outside of the strict confines of say, a futurity show barn. I had a friend buy a horse out of a program. The horse had only ever been in a full time program and was a lovely, talented horse. But, the horse had been pulled out of the breeder’s field, put into training, and said training had focused exclusively on a handful of things the horse could do under saddle. And that horse flipped out when she tried to brush the horse under its belly. 

My point is not to denigrate show horses or trainers. My point is that for most of us, competing horses and even just owning and being around horses encompasses so much more than the small time we sit on their backs.   

As a mental performance coach, I see how when we neglect all the other components of performance, our performance suffers. Part of an effective mental strategy is to value those other components of performance. 

Because as a horse owner, unless you are part of a very select group of folks who do not ride and solely view their horse as an investment; well, you are going to want to ride and handle that animal yourself! 

And guess what. I’d bet you want to ENJOY the time you spend with your horse! 

Recognize that is a goal. It is a worthy and wonderful goal and part of enjoying your time with your horse! And that if that is a goal you have for yourself, do not expect it to magically expect it to “just happen”. Good horses aren’t birthed fully formed like Athena from Zeus’ forehead. They are made. 

To circle back around to mental performance here. Don’t discount and denigrate yourself for the time you spend making your horse a solid citizen. A pleasure to be around. 

In the world of equestrian pursuits, it's easy to get caught up in the grand performances and dazzling under saddle maneuvers. But as we've seen with Baby Boy's recent outing, the foundation of a great show horse extends beyond the arena. It encompasses the little, yet crucial, experiences like trailering, exposure to new environments, and the ability to be a well-rounded and confident companion.

Remember, your horse is not just a performer; they are a partner in your journey. The time and effort you invest in their holistic development pay dividends in your shared experiences and enjoyment together.

As you reflect on this past year and set goals for the one ahead, consider adding "Building a Solid Citizen" to your list. It's not just about mastering the technical aspects; it's about creating a horse that's a joy to be around. And, by extension, it's about nurturing your own enjoyment and fulfillment in the horsey world.

So, next time you find yourself wondering if the "little things" matter, remember that they do. They shape not only your horse but also your own experience as a horseman or horsewoman. Embrace these moments, celebrate your progress, and cherish the journey. I see you. I support you. I know how much those little moments matter. Here's to a year filled with growth, connection, and countless "little things" that make it all worthwhile.

Wishing you all the best in the coming year, and may it be filled with success, joy, and the fulfillment of your equestrian dreams.

Happy Trails,

Nicole Burnett

Mental Performance Coach for Western Riders

P.S. If you’re looking for some help reviewing your past year in a proven, effective manner, and setting a goal or two for the new year, you don’t want to miss this week’s podcast! You’re going to love it! I walk you through step by step how to review your past year’s accomplishments so that you can see how far you’ve come, extract the lessons you need to grow and progress, and set goals for yourself for the upcoming year to make it your best year yet. AND, I even created a FREE workbook for you to work through as well! So don’t miss out on Thursday’s podcast!!