How to Get Your Horse to Respond to You

Have you ever felt like your horse is tuning you out? Maybe they seem distracted, resistant, or just downright unmotivated. It’s frustrating, right? You’ve tried all the techniques, worked on your cues, and yet, you’re left thinking, What am I doing wrong?

Here’s the thing: it’s not about what you’re doing. It’s about how you’re showing up. Your mindset, energy, and communication are the secret ingredients to getting your horse to respond to you.

You know all that “It’s not you it’s me” bs… yeah, in this case… it IS you, babe! 

I know this might sound different from what you’ve heard from trainers or lessons in the past. But let me tell you, I’ve seen it time and time again: when riders shift their mindset, their horses start to really listen.

Take it from my clients—riders just like you:

• “I can’t believe how much better my relationship with my horse is!”

• “We’re finally connected, and she’s listening to me like never before.”

• “It feels like we’re a team now.”

These aren’t lucky accidents. They’re the results of intentional shifts in mindset and approach. And this week, I’m going to show you exactly how to make that happen for you and your horse.

This week, you’ll get one email per day—each one diving into a different topic covering how to get your horse to listen to you. Doesn’t matter if you want this because you’re a scared adult re-rider, or you want your horse to listen better instead of charging off uncontrollably in your rundown at the Derby–everyone needs this. This series blends mindset strategies, neuroscience, and actionable tips to improve your rider-horse connection. Here’s a preview of what’s coming.

Day 1: Ugh! You Just Don’t GET IT!! Why Understanding Your Horse’s Perspective Changes Everything (Plus The Mindset Shift That Leads to Long-Term Success)

Day 2: Magic Mirror On The Wall, Who’s The Best Horse of All? The Science of Mirror Neurons and How They Impact Your Horse’s Responses

Day 3: The Key to Clear, Confident Communication

Day 4: Not Another Trust Fall. How to Build Unshakable Trust with Your Horse

By the end of this, you’ll have simple, actionable steps to start creating a connection with your horse that feels effortless. Ready? Look for the first email from me tomorrow! Write back and tell me what you’re most excited about!

With grit and gratitude, 

Nicole