The REAL Story Of How I Became The Mindset and Confidence Queen

Whether you’re new to the Resilient Reiner Newsletter or have been around a while, you’ve heard me talk about HOW I help riders like you overcome show-day nerves, self-doubt, and inconsistency. But today, I want to share with you WHY this mission is so important to me.

This Is the REAL story of how I became the Mindset and Confidence Queen.

There was a time when I doubted myself before every ride. I’d step into the arena with a racing heart and a mind full of fear, overthinking every single move. 

I worried I wasn’t good enough. That I wasn’t cut out to be a cowgirl. That maybe this wasn’t meant for me. 

Some days I thought “what’s the point?” and struggled to even go ride. 

I thought I needed a fancy, well-trained animal to cover for my deficiencies. I thought I needed to be in a certain training program. I thought I just needed to “ride more” and “show more”. That if I just kept riding more, it would solve all my problems. Spoiler: It didn’t. 

I realized I needed to fix my MIND if I wanted to achieve my goals, but I didn’t know where to start! 

That’s when I started studying the mental game—diving deep into tools like visualization, meditation, reframing self-talk, and handling pressure like a pro. HOW could I become mentally tough and unshakable!

It wasn’t easy. I had to unlearn habits that were holding me back and create new ones that built my confidence. I felt like I was constantly releasing limiting belief after limiting belief. 

But the breakthroughs came. Slowly at first, and then more rapidly

Now, I ride with clarity, focus, and trust in myself. That transformation didn’t just change my riding—it changed my life.

That’s why I became so passionate about helping other riders master this too.

And from rewiring my brain I was able to score a 71.5 at my first NRHA show only riding 3x a week on a horse with special needs. I trained a wild mustang and for fun brought her to ranch versatility shows where she cleaned up. We even beat purpose trained QHs with less than a year under saddle! 

And now I get to coach riders to achieve the same breakthroughs I did! I’ve helped rider after rider break the 70 barrier they thought was unbreakable. 

Or step into the fierce competitor they have inside and win at the national level. 

To break free from fear holding them back after an accident. 

To start loving riding and showing again. 

Helping my clients become unshakable in and out of the show pen is truly a dream come true. 🤯😭

I don’t share this to brag. I share it because I’m SO passionate about helping riders overcome the mental struggles that hold them back. Confidence, focus, and resilience changes EVERYTHING, and I want to share that with the world. 

Now it’s your turn… What’s your WHY? 💭
Why do you want to be more confident in the show pen?
Why do you want to ride with trust and focus?
Why does this matter so much to you?

With much love and understanding,

Nicole

PS-Stay tuned… because the program I’m announcing soon is going to help you fulfill your WHY.

I can’t wait to share it with you!